By Daniel Morales

This issue is one that’s really close to my heart because I am bisexual. I’ve worked with many bi men who feel misunderstood, especially within the gay community. I’ve been there—facing criticism, discrimination, and even hate from both the heterosexual and gay communities. It can be confusing and lonely, but that’s why I’m here to clear up some common misconceptions about bisexuality.

Since I have dated both men and women, I have heard it all! Gay men have told me, “You’re not bi, you’re just too scared to come out as gay,” and straight women have said, “You’ll probably just cheat on me with a man.” I often speak to bisexual men who feel like they don’t belong in any community. It breaks my heart because I have felt the same many times before. Here’s the truth: bisexual men can be incredible partners—if you give us a chance!

So, let’s start with the basics:
What is bisexuality? In simple terms, it’s an attraction to more than one gender. For this article, we’ll focus on attraction to men and women, but remember, bisexuality is part of a broader spectrum that includes pansexual, omnisexual, and other bi+ identities.

Let’s debunk some myths:

1. Bisexuality equals promiscuity: Nope, being bi doesn’t mean we’re more likely to cheat. Like anyone else, we value trust and commitment in our relationships.
2. Bisexuality is a phase: Wrong again. Bisexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation, not a stopover on the way to being gay or straight.
3. Bisexuality means equal attraction to both genders: Not necessarily. Attraction can be fluid and varies from person to person.

If you’re dating a bisexual man or considering it, here are some tips:

• Understand bisexuality: Educate yourself and acknowledge the fluidity of sexual orientation.
• Communicate openly: Discuss your relationship expectations honestly and respectfully.
• Build trust: Don’t let stereotypes cloud your judgment—trust is key.

Support and celebrate: Embrace the uniqueness of your relationship and show your love proudly.