By Ty Dorce
“You gotta train your mind to be stronger than your emotions or else you’ll lose yourself every time.” A powerful quote that applies to life in and out of the gym. What does it mean? Why is it important? Here’s my understanding.
Our emotions can and will take us on a wild ride if we let them. Training the mind is often more difficult than training our body. We must learn how and when to snap back. Our emotions aren’t really the same day-in-and-day-out (especially women’s “hormones!”).
Maybe today you lost your job, you found out your spouse has stage four cancer, or it’s been over a year and you and your dad haven’t reconciled, the ending of a relationship, death, or whatever it is. It could cause an emotional imbalance.
Let’s go back to the quote, “Train your mind to be stronger than your emotions….” Well, if my ultimate goal is to be in the best shape of my life mentally and physically, and if I’m faced with any of the above mentioned emotional challenges, you better believe I’m going to hit the gym as planned! I’m going to eat my prepared meals as planned because that’s my ultimate goal: to remain healthy in all ways.
“I don’t feel like it,” “ughhh, I just got my period, I’m gonna skip today,” “I don’t know, let’s just go to happy hour instead,” “the world has been stressing me out,” … all are distractions based on feelings or emotions that will destroy your ultimate goal. I see it every day and I believe that is why most people never reach their ultimate potential, both on a fitness level and in life.
It is so important that we stay ready, that the routines that we choose to live by don’t get interrupted. When we are faced with undesired situations, we won’t be rattled to the core. A continuation of a healthy lifestyle is the ultimate weapon to battle against an emotional warfare. Let’s face it, there will be days that you will be tested as no one is immune to unpleasant situations. If you keep your emotions in check, you will learn that they don’t control you; you control them. You’re running the show, you’re the director, the producer, and the main star.
I have witnessed people who appeared to be so grounded, but have fallen hard when hit with the challenges of life. You can’t hide the truth from yourself. No one can “fix” you. It’s all on you. The decisions that you make today will affect your tomorrow. Unwanted situations will occur, no doubt. It’s totally up to you to build your character to not crash and burn when they arise.
In closing, issues will always come up that will test your decision making. I look at it as a test. A test that helps you build grit. In this life we’ll have many tests, and once passed, you move on to the next level. For example, your partner breaks up with you, but you still managed to eat your prepared meals and worked out as planned that day. Next time you find yourself in that same position you’ll tell yourself “this sucks, I’m heartbroken, but I’ve been here before, and I’m still going to get done what I planned on doing.” Moving forward, a broken relationship will always hurt, but it won’t shift you or your focus.
Peace: It doesn’t mean to be in a place where there is no noise. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.